Care for women, moms & parents
A moment to check in with yourselfA moment for yourselfHow partners can support new moms. Navigate difficult conversations with empathy and understanding. Tools to strengthen your relationship during challenging times.
A quick way to check in on emotional state
When conversations get heated or overwhelming
Weekly practice to strengthen connection
Clear way to ask for what you need
Practice these common situations with guided examples of supportive responses
"I notice you seem stressed. How can I help?"
"What would make things easier for you right now?"
"You're doing so much - what can I take off your plate?"
"You're being dramatic"
"Other moms handle this fine"
"Just relax"
How are you feeling today, both physically and emotionally?
What was the hardest part of your day?
What was something that went well today?
Is there anything you need help with tomorrow?
How can I best support you right now?
What do you need more of from me as your partner?
How has becoming a parent changed how you see yourself?
What are you most worried about right now?
What are you most excited about with our family?
How can we stay connected as a couple during this time?
What kind of support feels most helpful to you?
When do you feel most overwhelmed?
What would help you feel more confident as a parent?
How can we better divide household responsibilities?
What do you need to feel supported in your recovery?
The Partner Communication Guide is the printable companion to this page. It is built around the soft start-up: state the feeling, name the need, make one specific request. Most postpartum conflict is not about the dishes. It is about two exhausted people who have lost the thread of each other, and repair works better than avoidance.
Enter your name and email and the PDF opens right away. We will also send monthly notes from Dr. Jana on postpartum mental health.
If you notice these warning signs, encourage professional help immediately
Persistent thoughts of self-harm or harming the baby
Complete inability to function or care for self
Severe mood swings or anger outbursts
Disconnection from reality or hallucinations
Extreme anxiety that interferes with daily life
Inability to sleep even when baby is sleeping
Emergency: 911
Life-threatening situations
Crisis Line: 988
Suicide prevention lifeline
Postpartum: 1-800-944-4773
Maternal mental health support
Remember that improving communication is a skill that develops over time. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you learn together.
