Moms were never meant to parent with endless patience

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There's so much online right now about how good moms are like perfectly attuned and never separate from their babies. And this is a myth. The idea that a good mom is always calm, always patient, never overwhelmed, perfectly attuned. This is harming us because that means that when we feel irritated, when we are touched out, when we are angry, then we are the problem. But if you think about being patient during times, during trying times, that requires resources. And what's happening postpartum is that most of our resources are completely depleted. We don't have sleep. We don't have space. We don't have our body back. We don't have autonomy. Everything is limited. So our capacity to be able to regulate and stay perfectly attuned and perfectly calm, we really don't have the capacity for that. So struggling with staying calm doesn't make you a bad mom. It means that you're running on empty. And if this is you, therapy can be a great resource to learn to recalibrate, to learn tools, to stay calm in those sticky moments. I have a lot of resources at the link in my bio. And as always, follow along for more honest conversations about motherhood and mental health.